Growing up we were more concerned with our friends opinions of us. We wanted to fit in, to do what they did so we wear’t alienated. This meant those closest to us, those dear to us had the biggest effect on everything we did. From the way we talked to how we spent money.

I don’t know what happened exactly, I cant put my finger on when or where we flipped this but today, today we are more affected by people we don’t vibe with. Maybe its about showing those who mean ill to us that we still living our best lives despite their opinions,criticism and hate.

But you see it both on and offline. People flexing, not for the people they vibe with so as to drive and or motivate them but just to create envy in their haters. Everyone has their reasons for this, everyone has their reasons for flexing, flexing isn’t all bad if it serves a purpose that GROWS YOU.

In the act of trying to stick it to your haters you lose touch with YOUR why, and so everything you do loses its original value.

So you find yourself doing things you don’t even enjoy or like doing,but you’re doing it to show your haters you can do it better than them, that you can be better than them.

Everything you do should should have a personalized goal behind it. Even if you are doing things for someone else. You should have a why for doing things both for yourself and the people around you.

By being concerned about what others have to say especially your haters, you turn on a path that will see you wake up one day and see that you don’t even recognize yourself. Because you spent years doing things for the wrong reasons. By this time its too late for most people as they don’t have the mental and psychological strength to turn things around. To untangle years of misguided actions and decisions.

So stop letting others affect you. Especially those who don’t have whats best for YOU at heart.

Want to read more? Check out these other articles about this literary series 10 Things to Unlearn from School.

1. Failure is the opposite to Success.
2. Following the given process is better than seeking out efficiency.
3. Being told what to do before doing it.
4. Doing ONLY what you are told to do.
5. Everybody is restricted by the same rules as you.
6. Using free time to escape from the reality of school
7. Living for the weekend.
8. Doing things you don’t enjoy just because everybody else is doing so.
9. Letting your haters affect you.
10. Working for money.